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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
		<link>http://www.essentialprose.com/change-choose/who-holds-you-to-your-word/comment-page-1#comment-702</link>
		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Dec 2008 05:26:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ Alden - I agree that &quot;In the final analysis, we are really responsible for ourselves.&quot; Like I said to Grant above, I think having someone else hold you accountable is only effective if you truly want to do that thing. It&#039;s a way of reminding you, which I definitely need sometimes. 

I work on my fiction regularly (daily, when I&#039;m being good!), because I find that pushing myself with creative writing helps me write better. Sure, there is plenty of crap that comes out in between, but when I just sit and wait for inspiration, I tend to not write at all. Like you said, we each have our own way! 

By the way, my current daily goal is 750 words per day :).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ Alden &#8211; I agree that &#8220;In the final analysis, we are really responsible for ourselves.&#8221; Like I said to Grant above, I think having someone else hold you accountable is only effective if you truly want to do that thing. It&#8217;s a way of reminding you, which I definitely need sometimes. </p>
<p>I work on my fiction regularly (daily, when I&#8217;m being good!), because I find that pushing myself with creative writing helps me write better. Sure, there is plenty of crap that comes out in between, but when I just sit and wait for inspiration, I tend to not write at all. Like you said, we each have our own way! </p>
<p>By the way, my current daily goal is 750 words per day <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
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		<title>By: Alden Smith</title>
		<link>http://www.essentialprose.com/change-choose/who-holds-you-to-your-word/comment-page-1#comment-701</link>
		<dc:creator>Alden Smith</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Dec 2008 23:27:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi, Zoe~

In the final analysis, we are really responsible for ourselves.  I would not enjoy someone holding me &quot;accountable&quot; because it would put me under pressure to perform.  If I am writing poetry or fiction, that is a task that only my muse can prompt and control.  If I am writing for a client, that is a bit different.  I think it is really our responsibility as writers to do what works for us, for if our prose seems forced and contrived, our readers will know.  An old mentor told me this - &quot;Never let the reader see the author at work.&quot;  My habit is to work hard for several hours and then let what I have written simmer on the back burner.  when I take it out and look at it, I can instantly tell if my muse has spoken.  Therein lies my accountability.

I think each of us has a way of getting the job done.  When I was writing fiction full time, My goal was 750 words per day.  A good writer can hammer that out in an hour.  What to do with the rest of the day?  Take a nap?  Visit friends?  The choice really is your own.  I think it ties well into your post about time.

Peace,

Alden~

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Alden Smith´s last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.aldensmithenterprises.com/freelance-news/on-being-thankful-this-day/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;On Being Thankful This Day&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi, Zoe~</p>
<p>In the final analysis, we are really responsible for ourselves.  I would not enjoy someone holding me &#8220;accountable&#8221; because it would put me under pressure to perform.  If I am writing poetry or fiction, that is a task that only my muse can prompt and control.  If I am writing for a client, that is a bit different.  I think it is really our responsibility as writers to do what works for us, for if our prose seems forced and contrived, our readers will know.  An old mentor told me this &#8211; &#8220;Never let the reader see the author at work.&#8221;  My habit is to work hard for several hours and then let what I have written simmer on the back burner.  when I take it out and look at it, I can instantly tell if my muse has spoken.  Therein lies my accountability.</p>
<p>I think each of us has a way of getting the job done.  When I was writing fiction full time, My goal was 750 words per day.  A good writer can hammer that out in an hour.  What to do with the rest of the day?  Take a nap?  Visit friends?  The choice really is your own.  I think it ties well into your post about time.</p>
<p>Peace,</p>
<p>Alden~</p>
<p><abbr><em>Alden Smith´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.aldensmithenterprises.com/freelance-news/on-being-thankful-this-day/" rel="nofollow">On Being Thankful This Day</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
		<link>http://www.essentialprose.com/change-choose/who-holds-you-to-your-word/comment-page-1#comment-660</link>
		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Dec 2008 16:43:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ Kristin - I find that it&#039;s hard to draw the line sometimes between what I really want and what I&#039;m just doing. Little habits that I kinda get a kick out of, but that are actually kind of disrupting the things I *really* want.

@ Matthew - Those sound like some pretty good accountable-holders :).

@ Urban Panther - Love the dinner party trick! I&#039;ll have to try that next time I can&#039;t motivate cleaning... hmm, maybe it would encourage me to start unpacking...

@ Trina - So, is that why you keep him around ;)?

@ Lisa - Fitness is a big one for this. For me, having someone to work out with makes a huge difference.

@ Caren - Ooh, so I suppose I can&#039;t visit your classroom and tell them how you *really* are... :-P!

@ Alain - It&#039;s certainly not a bad thing. Whenever I announce that I&#039;m making a big move, or a big change, it usually pushes me to do really good things :) Knowing it matters to your wife too is a wonderful motivation.

@ Grant - You make a good point...it&#039;s easy to make excuses to other people. In the end, I think having someone else hold you accountable really just means that they revive your personal sense of need/want/aspire.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ Kristin &#8211; I find that it&#8217;s hard to draw the line sometimes between what I really want and what I&#8217;m just doing. Little habits that I kinda get a kick out of, but that are actually kind of disrupting the things I *really* want.</p>
<p>@ Matthew &#8211; Those sound like some pretty good accountable-holders <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
<p>@ Urban Panther &#8211; Love the dinner party trick! I&#8217;ll have to try that next time I can&#8217;t motivate cleaning&#8230; hmm, maybe it would encourage me to start unpacking&#8230;</p>
<p>@ Trina &#8211; So, is that why you keep him around <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> ?</p>
<p>@ Lisa &#8211; Fitness is a big one for this. For me, having someone to work out with makes a huge difference.</p>
<p>@ Caren &#8211; Ooh, so I suppose I can&#8217;t visit your classroom and tell them how you *really* are&#8230; <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_razz.gif' alt=':-P' class='wp-smiley' /> !</p>
<p>@ Alain &#8211; It&#8217;s certainly not a bad thing. Whenever I announce that I&#8217;m making a big move, or a big change, it usually pushes me to do really good things <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  Knowing it matters to your wife too is a wonderful motivation.</p>
<p>@ Grant &#8211; You make a good point&#8230;it&#8217;s easy to make excuses to other people. In the end, I think having someone else hold you accountable really just means that they revive your personal sense of need/want/aspire.</p>
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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
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		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Dec 2008 16:32:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ JenX67 - I just looked at your mind map and read the post. You took this idea to a brave depth... I&#039;m looking forward to seeing where these new directions take you.

@ CJ - Luckily, Mr. J just likes to bust my chops. He&#039;s actually a wonderful critic/editor of my writing, so I cannot really complain :)

@ Writer Dad - I definitely know where you&#039;re coming from... that urgency is a bit addictive, I think!

@ TJ - It sure does help to have someone around who can see when you need some soft prodding. 

@ Kim - Yup, it just makes you feel like you should stick to what you said you&#039;d be doing. Sometimes even without words.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ JenX67 &#8211; I just looked at your mind map and read the post. You took this idea to a brave depth&#8230; I&#8217;m looking forward to seeing where these new directions take you.</p>
<p>@ CJ &#8211; Luckily, Mr. J just likes to bust my chops. He&#8217;s actually a wonderful critic/editor of my writing, so I cannot really complain <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>@ Writer Dad &#8211; I definitely know where you&#8217;re coming from&#8230; that urgency is a bit addictive, I think!</p>
<p>@ TJ &#8211; It sure does help to have someone around who can see when you need some soft prodding. </p>
<p>@ Kim &#8211; Yup, it just makes you feel like you should stick to what you said you&#8217;d be doing. Sometimes even without words.</p>
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		<title>By: Grant Simmons</title>
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		<dc:creator>Grant Simmons</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Nov 2008 23:27:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Many people may feel I *should* be accountable to them, wife, kids, boss, family.

End of the day, I&#039;m only accountable to myself.

Not being narcissistic, rather real, truthful and true to myself.

I have to be able to look myself in the mirror (excuse the cliche) and feel good about what I&#039;ve done, answer to myself for what I haven&#039;t, and assess how I can do better (or more or more relevant).

Only I really know me, I&#039;m pretty much the only one I can make excuses to and contradict those excuses.

Boils down to &lt;strong&gt;personality, honesty, integrity, passion and commitment&lt;/strong&gt;.

&lt;em&gt;I&#039;m Grant Simmons&lt;/strong&gt;, and I&#039;m accountable for this message&lt;/em&gt;

:-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Many people may feel I *should* be accountable to them, wife, kids, boss, family.</p>
<p>End of the day, I&#8217;m only accountable to myself.</p>
<p>Not being narcissistic, rather real, truthful and true to myself.</p>
<p>I have to be able to look myself in the mirror (excuse the cliche) and feel good about what I&#8217;ve done, answer to myself for what I haven&#8217;t, and assess how I can do better (or more or more relevant).</p>
<p>Only I really know me, I&#8217;m pretty much the only one I can make excuses to and contradict those excuses.</p>
<p>Boils down to <strong>personality, honesty, integrity, passion and commitment</strong>.</p>
<p><em>I&#8217;m Grant Simmons, and I&#8217;m accountable for this message</em></p>
<p> <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Alain Lemay</title>
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		<dc:creator>Alain Lemay</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:14:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>For most things, its my wife. If I lost weight in the past year, it is because of her. It is not that she nags me about it - it is simply that the fact that she cares about me makes me want to try harder.
Having people expect things from you is not a bad thing. It certainly seems to have worked for you on this blog. You knew your readers would be expecting you to produce so you kicked yourself and got it done.
I have never written more than since I started blogging. Because I know that the people coming to my blog (all 4-5 of you :) expect me to produce something. That is my accountability framework.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Alain Lemay´s last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://brainages.blogspot.com/2008/10/helping-bloggers-get-some-exposure.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Helping Bloggers get some exposure!&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For most things, its my wife. If I lost weight in the past year, it is because of her. It is not that she nags me about it &#8211; it is simply that the fact that she cares about me makes me want to try harder.<br />
Having people expect things from you is not a bad thing. It certainly seems to have worked for you on this blog. You knew your readers would be expecting you to produce so you kicked yourself and got it done.<br />
I have never written more than since I started blogging. Because I know that the people coming to my blog (all 4-5 of you <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  expect me to produce something. That is my accountability framework.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Alain Lemay´s last blog post..<a href="http://brainages.blogspot.com/2008/10/helping-bloggers-get-some-exposure.html" rel="nofollow">Helping Bloggers get some exposure!</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Caren</title>
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		<dc:creator>Caren</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Nov 2008 01:54:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I wish I could say that I hold myself accountable, but unfortunately I rarely do.  Since I started teaching, though, my students have really been doing that for me.  Mostly because I know how irresponsible teenagers can be and I know how irresponsible I can be.  I don&#039;t want them to see me (an &quot;adult&quot;) validating their own laziness.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I wish I could say that I hold myself accountable, but unfortunately I rarely do.  Since I started teaching, though, my students have really been doing that for me.  Mostly because I know how irresponsible teenagers can be and I know how irresponsible I can be.  I don&#8217;t want them to see me (an &#8220;adult&#8221;) validating their own laziness.</p>
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		<title>By: LisaNewton</title>
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		<dc:creator>LisaNewton</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Nov 2008 17:10:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Due to my subject matter, which has a focus on fitness and weight loss, many of the blogs I visit are people&#039;s method of accountability.  They write about their healthy lifestyle journeys.  Blogging is definitely one way to stay accountable, with readers being the main driver.

For me, my readers are also one of my methods of accountability.  Plus, I try to hold myself accountable.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;LisaNewton´s last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.iowaave.com/2008/11/17/do-you-live-or-die-by-the-scale/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Do you live or die by the scale?&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Due to my subject matter, which has a focus on fitness and weight loss, many of the blogs I visit are people&#8217;s method of accountability.  They write about their healthy lifestyle journeys.  Blogging is definitely one way to stay accountable, with readers being the main driver.</p>
<p>For me, my readers are also one of my methods of accountability.  Plus, I try to hold myself accountable.</p>
<p><abbr><em>LisaNewton´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.iowaave.com/2008/11/17/do-you-live-or-die-by-the-scale/" rel="nofollow">Do you live or die by the scale?</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Trina</title>
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		<dc:creator>Trina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Nov 2008 04:20:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I would love to say that I can hold my self accountable, but then I wouldnt be human...nor likely have any meaningful realtionships. I am happy to say I have my Hubs of 25 years to give me the kick I occasionaly need.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I would love to say that I can hold my self accountable, but then I wouldnt be human&#8230;nor likely have any meaningful realtionships. I am happy to say I have my Hubs of 25 years to give me the kick I occasionaly need.</p>
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		<title>By: Urban Panther</title>
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		<dc:creator>Urban Panther</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Nov 2008 21:22:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I need accountability with writing, fitness, and household chores.  Writing is easy. I have committed to my four posts a week, and I am accountable to my readers.  Fitness, well, I finally joined a gym and just paid a huge whack of money. So, I am accountable to my wallet.  Household ... the Urbane Lion is worse than I am with this one, so he&#039;s no help.  I am normally pretty good, but when it gets out of hand, I invite people over for dinner or a party.  Then I clean.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Urban Panther´s last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.urbanpantherslair.com/2008/11/today-is-rant-day-and-boy-do-i-have-a-doozy-cell-phones-oh-i-know-cell-phone-rants-have-been-done-to-death-and-i-promis.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Check that phone at the door&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I need accountability with writing, fitness, and household chores.  Writing is easy. I have committed to my four posts a week, and I am accountable to my readers.  Fitness, well, I finally joined a gym and just paid a huge whack of money. So, I am accountable to my wallet.  Household &#8230; the Urbane Lion is worse than I am with this one, so he&#8217;s no help.  I am normally pretty good, but when it gets out of hand, I invite people over for dinner or a party.  Then I clean.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Urban Panther´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.urbanpantherslair.com/2008/11/today-is-rant-day-and-boy-do-i-have-a-doozy-cell-phones-oh-i-know-cell-phone-rants-have-been-done-to-death-and-i-promis.html" rel="nofollow">Check that phone at the door</a></em></abbr></p>
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