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		<title>By: &#8230; &#171; Wishes on Stars</title>
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		<dc:creator>&#8230; &#171; Wishes on Stars</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:20:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>By: Creating the means to match the spirit (How to Plan for Travel) &#124; Taylor Davidson</title>
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		<dc:creator>Creating the means to match the spirit (How to Plan for Travel) &#124; Taylor Davidson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2009 09:22:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
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		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Jul 2009 03:26:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ Jul - Thanks for coming by :). I can certainly relate to what you described... I look forward to hearing more about your perspectives.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ Jul &#8211; Thanks for coming by <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> . I can certainly relate to what you described&#8230; I look forward to hearing more about your perspectives.</p>
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		<title>By: Jul</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jul</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:22:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I can&#039;t remember how I ended up on your blog, but I&#039;m glad I did - this was a fun post to read. I can&#039;t count the number of people who have oohed and aahed over the fact that I live abroad, only to follow it with &quot;I&#039;d love to do that, but I just can&#039;t&quot; and some excuse that makes it sound like they have real responsibilities and I don&#039;t. Sometimes I just want to shake them until they understand that they are creating their own realities.
.-= Jul´s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThisNonamericanLife/~3/Iq9jANmzkuY/im-talking-about-beverages-what-are-you.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;I&#039;m talking about beverages. What are you talking about?&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I can&#8217;t remember how I ended up on your blog, but I&#8217;m glad I did &#8211; this was a fun post to read. I can&#8217;t count the number of people who have oohed and aahed over the fact that I live abroad, only to follow it with &#8220;I&#8217;d love to do that, but I just can&#8217;t&#8221; and some excuse that makes it sound like they have real responsibilities and I don&#8217;t. Sometimes I just want to shake them until they understand that they are creating their own realities.<br />
.-= Jul´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThisNonamericanLife/~3/Iq9jANmzkuY/im-talking-about-beverages-what-are-you.html" rel="nofollow">I&#8217;m talking about beverages. What are you talking about?</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
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		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 08:55:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ Colin - You&#039;re right, the motivations do vary so much. It&#039;s always interesting to hear/see the accumulation of experiences that pushes someone to the tipping point where they decide to change. Not that there&#039;s always a tipping point -- for some people, veering from the mainstream is natural. Thanks for your perspective :)

@ Elyse - Thanks very much :).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ Colin &#8211; You&#8217;re right, the motivations do vary so much. It&#8217;s always interesting to hear/see the accumulation of experiences that pushes someone to the tipping point where they decide to change. Not that there&#8217;s always a tipping point &#8212; for some people, veering from the mainstream is natural. Thanks for your perspective <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>@ Elyse &#8211; Thanks very much <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
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		<title>By: Elyse</title>
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		<dc:creator>Elyse</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:21:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This was lovely to read.
.-= Elyse´s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://lacklustermusings.com/2009/07/10/car-insurance/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Car Insurance&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This was lovely to read.<br />
.-= Elyse´s last blog ..<a href="http://lacklustermusings.com/2009/07/10/car-insurance/" rel="nofollow">Car Insurance</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Colin Wright</title>
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		<dc:creator>Colin Wright</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:51:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Very well said.

It does seem that more and more people and willing (and able) to upend their life and move somewhere else, taking in a completely different cultural (and economic and philosophical) experience than the one they were enjoying in their own backyard.

I know for me, the prospect of continuing down the road that I&#039;ve been on (very successful studio, with the work and money just piling on) just seemed so...depressing. I felt that by staying in one place, even though I work for myself I was still being shortchanged and not enjoying the breadth of experiences that are available to me.

The reasons are different for each and every person, though, and that&#039;s a big reason why it&#039;s so much fun to explore the blogs that people have started in the location independent niche. So many stories, so much inspiration.

Keep it up!
.-= Colin Wright´s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/exilelifestyle/~3/KWLCwj6WsmU/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Park Further Away to Achieve Enlightenment&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Very well said.</p>
<p>It does seem that more and more people and willing (and able) to upend their life and move somewhere else, taking in a completely different cultural (and economic and philosophical) experience than the one they were enjoying in their own backyard.</p>
<p>I know for me, the prospect of continuing down the road that I&#8217;ve been on (very successful studio, with the work and money just piling on) just seemed so&#8230;depressing. I felt that by staying in one place, even though I work for myself I was still being shortchanged and not enjoying the breadth of experiences that are available to me.</p>
<p>The reasons are different for each and every person, though, and that&#8217;s a big reason why it&#8217;s so much fun to explore the blogs that people have started in the location independent niche. So many stories, so much inspiration.</p>
<p>Keep it up!<br />
.-= Colin Wright´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/exilelifestyle/~3/KWLCwj6WsmU/" rel="nofollow">Park Further Away to Achieve Enlightenment</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
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		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:38:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jeb, thank you so much for your thoughts. You&#039;re so right to point out the depth of societal expectations. It seems that we must perpetually challenge and question what we think we know, in order to continue unfolding the layers of assumptions, expectations, and limitations. The most deeply hidden ones are the most limiting, and of course the most difficult to shake. 

I learn so much by taking the time to articulate these thoughts, and opening this platform to hear perspectives from you and other people reading this blog... so I too am very grateful indeed :).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jeb, thank you so much for your thoughts. You&#8217;re so right to point out the depth of societal expectations. It seems that we must perpetually challenge and question what we think we know, in order to continue unfolding the layers of assumptions, expectations, and limitations. The most deeply hidden ones are the most limiting, and of course the most difficult to shake. </p>
<p>I learn so much by taking the time to articulate these thoughts, and opening this platform to hear perspectives from you and other people reading this blog&#8230; so I too am very grateful indeed <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
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		<title>By: Jeb</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jeb</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Jul 2009 10:44:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Zdub,
You seem to be the embodiment of what I consider a major social shift that&#039;s occurring around the world...or at the very least, in this corner of the world.

Everyday, it seems, I encounter people who, when they give themselves permission to &#039;dream&#039;, recognize that something has changed this past year, and that doing what they&#039;ve always done before just doesn&#039;t make sense anymore. They see a different way, and they imagine the possibilities. But as is typical, many of these people stop dead in their tracks when given the chance to make that dream a new reality. For them. 

Getting past that barrier of societal expectations is about the hardest thing on the planet to do. So many associations were made in our brains at a time when we neither had the faculties to stop them, nor the realization that they were things that ought to be stopped. 

When the default is a flight to safety, the system is clearly broken. And when the reality of that safety we imagine and move towards in such a time no longer exists, well that&#039;s just insanity.

So much of my time this past year has been about moving beyond what I&#039;ve known, since what I&#039;ve known has not served me well. I love that you&#039;re out there clearing a path, and I&#039;m very grateful to you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Zdub,<br />
You seem to be the embodiment of what I consider a major social shift that&#8217;s occurring around the world&#8230;or at the very least, in this corner of the world.</p>
<p>Everyday, it seems, I encounter people who, when they give themselves permission to &#8216;dream&#8217;, recognize that something has changed this past year, and that doing what they&#8217;ve always done before just doesn&#8217;t make sense anymore. They see a different way, and they imagine the possibilities. But as is typical, many of these people stop dead in their tracks when given the chance to make that dream a new reality. For them. </p>
<p>Getting past that barrier of societal expectations is about the hardest thing on the planet to do. So many associations were made in our brains at a time when we neither had the faculties to stop them, nor the realization that they were things that ought to be stopped. </p>
<p>When the default is a flight to safety, the system is clearly broken. And when the reality of that safety we imagine and move towards in such a time no longer exists, well that&#8217;s just insanity.</p>
<p>So much of my time this past year has been about moving beyond what I&#8217;ve known, since what I&#8217;ve known has not served me well. I love that you&#8217;re out there clearing a path, and I&#8217;m very grateful to you.</p>
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		<title>By: Zoë</title>
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		<dc:creator>Zoë</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2009 12:19:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@ Andy - Great to hear your perspective, since I&#039;ve watched you launch this new path! It&#039;s so true that you know it&#039;s right when even though it&#039;s difficult, it feels like it&#039;s meant just for you. It&#039;s pretty wonderful to discover the things that make working really hard an honor. 

@ Cam - Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. I think it&#039;s sometimes difficult to negotiate the line between being unapologetic and sounding didactic. The support means a lot :).

@ Janice - What lovely words, thank you! &quot;A bit of hard-won grace&quot; and agility -- outcomes I aspire to :).

@ Haider - Thanks for offering your insight. While I understand what you mean, I have to say that I do believe everything we know is subjective to the extent that our language and understanding of everything passes through perspectives and filters we&#039;ve created. &quot;Flat&quot; and &quot;round&quot; are categories we&#039;ve created, and there are infinite re-classifications and new language that could replace them if we found new ways to perceive. 

@ Miriam - Thanks so much :). Hope to see you more on the blog!

@ Jen - It&#039;s wonderful that you don&#039;t have regrets -- I think that&#039;s really important -- but your story does show the ways we can scare ourselves and limit ourselves. Thanks for the song lyrics, which I hadn&#039;t seen before.

@ Kathryn - &quot;Raising my children to be peculiar&quot; -- I love it! I can totally relate the work-from-home issues ... it&#039;s hard to convince people that you actually work, and that you don&#039;t just hang out at home all day -- especially hard when you enjoy your work!

@ Jean Philippe - Yep, it&#039;s a theme that&#039;s becoming pretty constant in my life. Can&#039;t escape it :)!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@ Andy &#8211; Great to hear your perspective, since I&#8217;ve watched you launch this new path! It&#8217;s so true that you know it&#8217;s right when even though it&#8217;s difficult, it feels like it&#8217;s meant just for you. It&#8217;s pretty wonderful to discover the things that make working really hard an honor. </p>
<p>@ Cam &#8211; Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. I think it&#8217;s sometimes difficult to negotiate the line between being unapologetic and sounding didactic. The support means a lot <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
<p>@ Janice &#8211; What lovely words, thank you! &#8220;A bit of hard-won grace&#8221; and agility &#8212; outcomes I aspire to <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
<p>@ Haider &#8211; Thanks for offering your insight. While I understand what you mean, I have to say that I do believe everything we know is subjective to the extent that our language and understanding of everything passes through perspectives and filters we&#8217;ve created. &#8220;Flat&#8221; and &#8220;round&#8221; are categories we&#8217;ve created, and there are infinite re-classifications and new language that could replace them if we found new ways to perceive. </p>
<p>@ Miriam &#8211; Thanks so much <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> . Hope to see you more on the blog!</p>
<p>@ Jen &#8211; It&#8217;s wonderful that you don&#8217;t have regrets &#8212; I think that&#8217;s really important &#8212; but your story does show the ways we can scare ourselves and limit ourselves. Thanks for the song lyrics, which I hadn&#8217;t seen before.</p>
<p>@ Kathryn &#8211; &#8220;Raising my children to be peculiar&#8221; &#8212; I love it! I can totally relate the work-from-home issues &#8230; it&#8217;s hard to convince people that you actually work, and that you don&#8217;t just hang out at home all day &#8212; especially hard when you enjoy your work!</p>
<p>@ Jean Philippe &#8211; Yep, it&#8217;s a theme that&#8217;s becoming pretty constant in my life. Can&#8217;t escape it <img src='http://www.essentialprose.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> !</p>
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